"Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless, afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby" (Heb 12:11). God disciplines His children out of love (v. 6), and the Bible is clear about parents' responsibility to discipline their children (e.g., Prov 19:18; 22:6; 29:15, 17). If we love them, we will correct them, teaching them God's standards for living, just as God chastens us because He loves us. But when parents defensively shield a child (including adult children) repeatedly to avoid the consequences of their poor life choices and a sinful lifestyle, they do them and the family a disservice. When a person frequently buffers the result of a colleague's misdoings, they are not doing that friend a favor.
The defensive enabler runs
interference for the one they are protecting, continually helping the enabled to
escape the results of their flawed ways. Enabled people will selfishly feed on
the goodness and generosity given by others. Both are wrong in their actions, adversely
affecting those nearest them, not considering their misconduct's harmful impact
on others in the future. How can someone learn God's ways if their
example-setter is not showing wisdom by following God's guide for living, escaping
accountability for their actions? One day we all will stand before Holy God to account
for our lives (Rom 14:12). When you do, what will you have to say?
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